not judging.

Is it social media? Is it me feeling like I’m not all I should be? I don’t quite know, but over the past year, I’ve found myself being a bit judgmental. I keep it to myself, but I don’t like it. Not one bit.

I remind myself that I don’t know these people or I don’t know why they do the things they do. I’d rather be a bit naive and give people the benefit of the doubt than to be cynical and snarky. It just feels like a better way to live.

But then I got stuck the other day. In line at the post office, the two ladies behind me were complaining about a sister that never hosts the holiday celebration, never cooks, saying that some people are just selfish that way. And I started to judge them for judging. Maybe she’s not selfish! Maybe it is overwhelming for her to think about hosting. Maybe she doesn’t have time to prepare her house and cook for a large group…..

Just because I’m trying to stop from judging others doesn’t mean that I should expect everyone to stop judging others. But it would be nice.

phelix – 26 dec 2014